RULES for FOLLOWERS

In this present world of strong women, who lead their lives and control all emotional and business movements, it is a very challenging task left for men: to be a leader. Everybody said they should be stronger, smarter, faster, more energetic, and just more. But from their childhood men mostly were raised by mothers, taught by women-teachers, and accustomed to be obediently polite to their wives (not to upset them). Now in such situations some men are leaders, and some others are giving up…Most of them could get very good leading techniques from the tango lessons, but only IF women would learn HOW to be good followers.
The good answer for a happy tango relationship or for a happy marriage is in traditional role of the Tango leader. But, Ladies, let your partner be a MAN. Learn how to be a follower on the dance floor, and during the tango lessons. Most women consciously or authentically feel that they need leaders in their lives. They feel it, but still try to take too much burden on their shoulders, even in the dance. They are so accustomed to teach, to help, to talk, that they cannot stop doing it even during the perfectly good dance lessons with a good teacher, who also talks.
First: most women need to train themselves NOT TO TALK to a man during the lesson or practice. Learn how to listen. Make an effort to listen silently to the energy that he is trying to project in the frame of the embrace. If men give up tango would never happen. Tango asks for “mucho macho.” It is a man’s dance, but it is always about women.
However, it was and is about leading by men. FOLLOWERS: try to give your partner a chance to express himself. Give him a moment on the dance floor to do something on his own, let him make an initiative! It would please him tremendously! THEN, he would feel joy! And THEN he would make you happy!
RULES:
1. Listen to your partner intently
2. Don’t teach him anything even though you might think you know more
3. Don’t talk to him during the lesson or during your practice with him
4. Don’t try to help him by saying “HOW” he needs to do the step
5. Try to please him with everything during the practice, and support his effort to learn with you
6. Follow his lead even though it might be “wrong” or just his experiments
7. Be willing to go with your man where he leads you on the dance floor
8. Close your eyes, and read the energy inside the frame.
9. Learn the correct tango techniques (it is equal for both)
10. Listen to the music while moving with your partner
11. Don’t assume what is next
12. Learn patterns and be ready should the leader break them for his own interpretation
13. Don’t follow some "fashion" without thinking, and without adjusting the tango style to your own body/mind, and without understanding what each style means!
Every woman can dance only on the Leader’s skills.

Please, enjoy video: Tango Improvisations (Gustavo and Elena-09):

1. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGeOYzOznrA

2. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGeOYzO